其實許多「自戀者」是「自我厭惡者」Most narcissists don’t love themselves at all

The narcissist’s constant need for attention is often irritating. However, the fact is that it seems to come from a deep insecurity they’re trying to cover up.

Research indicates that many narcissists don’t actually love themselves at all. In fact, their behaviors are driven by self-hatred much of the time.

So, when you see someone name-dropping at work or plastering selfies on social media, they could be a vulnerable narcissist. Experts said the best strategy for dealing with narcissists may be to try to understand where they’re coming from.

友善讓你懂｜解說：

自戀者往往不斷需要博取注意力，這種行為常常看了令人惱火。但事實上，這是因為他們試圖掩蓋內心深層的不安全感。

研究指出，許多自戀者其實一點都不愛自己，他們很多自戀行為是由「自我憎恨」來驅動的。所以，當你看到有人在工作上喜歡自抬身價或在社群媒體上貼滿個人自拍照，他們可能就是屬於脆弱的自戀者。專家建議，跟自戀者相處的最好策略，應該是嘗試了解他們的來歷。

輕鬆帶著走｜學習：

name-dropping 指的是喜歡藉由與名人或成功人士沾光來「自抬身價」，是一種看似炫耀但實際上反映內心不安全感的行為。

例句：His constant name-dropping is actually a joke in the company. 他不斷自抬身價的行為，在公司裡其實是個笑話。

本篇其他相關單字：

• narcissist (n.) 自戀者
• irritating (adj.) 令人厭煩
• insecurity (n.) 不安全感
• self-hatred (n.) 自我厭惡
• plaster (v.) 大量張貼
• vulnerable (adj.) 脆弱的